Dear Pastor,

I must commend you for the wonderful work you are doing. I am a married man and have three children with my wife. My wife goes to America every year to visit the children. I am not a traveller. I only go to America to spend Thanksgiving with the children. You see, pastor, I am 59 and cannot bother with the up and down. We have a lovely home in the Kingston 8 area. Whenever my wife is not here, a lady comes in to clean, wash and iron.

One week she was ill and sent her 22-year-old daughter to do the work. Pastor, please don't condemn me, but the moment I saw her I could not resist her. She was only there for a few hours, and I told her she should come back the following day. She told me she couldn't come because she just had a young baby and her mother wasn't well. I told her to bring the baby. When she came the following day, she was in a tights with just a little blouse covering her bottom. That made matters worse. She was ironing for me. The young girl is so pretty. I went into my room, closed the door and masturbated. I was in there for so long that when I came out she asked me if I fell asleep. I told her yes. When she was leaving, I paid her more than what I had paid her mother. I told her to buy something for herself. My mind was on her all night.

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The Friday of that week, I called her mother and asked how she was doing. She said she was improving. I told her that should not force herself to come back to work the coming week, she could send her daughter, so the daughter came.

I asked her if I could talk to her about something, and she said yes. I told her that from the time I saw her I fell in love with her, but I am a married man and I should not love a young girl. She said her babyfather is 15 years older than she is. I asked her if she would give me 'the thing' and she said yes, but she wouldn't want her mother to know. I laughed and hugged her.

When she came back in the week, we spent the whole day together in bed. It was my first time cheating on my wife. I don't know what to do because I am loving this girl, and it is my wife who has caused this.

T.O.

Dear T.O.,

What kind of rubbish are you talking? Your wife is not the cause why you went to bed with this young girl. You got carried away with her sexy body. You were tempted and yielded to the temptation. I know what you are saying. You believe if your wife were here, you wouldn't have had the sexual encounter with this young girl.

Why can't you see that it is the weakness of your flesh that has got you into trouble. You didn't have to encourage the girl to come back when you met her the first day. At the end of the week, you didn't have to call the mother and give her the impression that you were so concerned about her health, so she could stay home. You did so because you wanted to have your time with this young girl, and you succeeded. So, stop blaming your wife.

You have made a mistake. What you should try to do is not to encourage the girl to come back to your house and work for you anymore. Keep out of trouble. If you continue to do what you are doing, you are going to mess up your family.

Pastor