Dear Pastor,

I am writing about my situation. I was in a relationship with a man for one year and six months. He is from Kingston. We started dating through the Star connection. During that time good and bad things happened.

He proposed to get married to me and I accepted his proposal. On the other hand, he abused me for every little thing. Once he hit me so hard in my face I could only drink liquid through a straw. I left and went back home to Manchester. He told me that he was sorry and I should forgive him and I did. He hit me for a second time, so I told him this time that I will not forgive him.

He told me that I should give him money to pay rent and pay the bills when I work. I couldn't take it anymore so I left.

During the year and six months he would text me to come back to him. I told him that I was pregnant and he said he would accept the child as his. I came to Kingston to visit my dad and he asked if he could see me and I said yes. When we met, I told him that I had gone back to my first child's father and I am ok, then after saying that to him, he wanted to hit me again. When he calmed down, he said that if he doesn't beat a woman, he cannot get his kicks to have sex. From that moment on I decided to keep him off and he would text, call and disturb me at anytime.

money problems

One day I was depressed and he happened to call at the same time and he asked what was the matter. My exact words were "You can't help me so don't bother to ask" and he insisted that I tell him and I did. I had some money problems and he offered to help me. From there onward he said he wanted me back and so each time he called I would reject the calls. He is now saying if he cannot get me back, he is going to scandalise me.

So, I told him if he messed with my child's life, it is not going to go like that. He reported it and a police officer called me. He has been over the media with it too and he just sent me a copy of a letter he wrote you, also using my initial on his letter he wrote you "TCW".

Pastor, I have never taken the money as what he said. He was the one who offered to help me. I am at work and I am in tears. I can't take it anymore. I am confused.

Pastor, please tell me what to do

T.W.

Dear T.W.,

Make arrangements to pay back this money. You can do it in instalments. He did not give you the money as a loan, but now that he is making a big issue of it, let him have it back. After you have paid him his money, wash your hands as a symbol of not having anything to do with him.

Pastor