Dear Pastor,

I wish to compliment you on the great work that you are doing. I am 23 and this is my first time writing to you. I have a problem and I would really do well with some solid and conscious advice.

I am a mother of two children. My first child is three years old. I love him very much. He is very sensible and intelligent. My mother is now helping me out with him by keeping him. When I was pregnant with my second child my child's father abandoned me completely and I wasn't able to pay rent, so I got notice. I could hardly find food to eat.

I had my baby in March and he came to the hospital twice to see me. I asked him to take some clothes to the hospital for me, and, up until this day, he hasn't turned up. The day when I was to give birth, I called his phone and he turned it off. I was staying in an old shop without electricity and I almost stayed there and die, but I got a friend to take me to the hospital.

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Pastor, after having my baby, I did everything to myself just to stay in the hospital because I had nowhere to go after leaving the hospital, and I also wanted to stay with my baby. I have considered to give him up for adoption. I started working in a bar about two weeks now. I have to take care of my first son and I am trying to save so I can get a place to rent, because I am staying with my friend.

The worst of this is that my babyfather got another girl pregnant during the time I was pregnant and he moved in with her. When he and I started talking, he was the nicest guy and he treated me really well. He helped me and spent a lot of time with me. I thought he had loved me. He got himself into trouble with the law and I was there with him until he got out of jail.

I am not a perfect woman, but I am not a flirty woman. This man has his woman calling my phone. It has been three weeks now since I left my baby at the hospital because I do not have anywhere to take him. I visit him every time I get the chance, but it makes me cry. My blood pressure keeps going up because one day I might hear that the social worker at the hospital finds him another family, and I might never see him again. My mother would help me with him, but she is already helping me with my other son and the man she is living with does not like us.

I asked my babyfather for some money to pay my fare and to buy pampers and other things that the baby needs and he hasn't helped me. This is my second week working and I got sick the other day because I started working too early, but I don't mind. I just want to get a place. I love my children and I am willing to make any sacrifice to make them happy. I don't want to give my son up for adoption because I don't think anyone will love him the way I do. I believe God has given me him for a reason.

Having read my letter, you must be wondering how I didn't protect myself, but both of us talked about the child and he wanted a child. If you know anyone with a job or an agency that can help me, please contact me.

Keep up the good work.

Distressed Mother

Dear Distressed Mother,

As I publish this letter, I am asking the Good Lord to move on the heart of someone who would be willing to give you shelter and assist you with necessities that the baby may need until you are in a position to rent an apartment and live on your own. You need to have your baby with you.

Nothing is wrong with working in a bar, but right now that is not the place you should be as a young mother. You have been forced to take on this job, but my prayer is that someone would come to your rescue.

My dear, you do not have anything to be ashamed of. Everyone makes mistakes. God will deal with the man who has walked away from you and is not supporting his child. God is not dead. We will do our very best to help you.

Pastor