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BB Mix Up

Raga it look like me en a trouble. Me did a use bbm and a talk too me friends dem as usual. Me always talk to more than one person at the same time. So me a talk to two a me friends and me woman and den a cat weh me a beat link me. So me start BB har too.

Raga after a while me girl pon di side start post nuf things about sort out and me a answer har back, while at the same time still a talk to me friends dem an me woman. Same time me woman post one a dem confused face something and asked "what are u talking about?". Me did a wonder what was SHE talking about when me notice say me did sen har a BB message that me should have sent to me girl pon di side!

Raga is not like me and me woman don't send sexy sort out message to each other, we do it all the time, but not like how me girl pon di side do it. Me girl pon di side more exciting and always say and do things more exciting than me woman. So when me woman see the BBM that was meant for me girl pon di side, a tell har how me a go {Raga here: mi couldn't write di crazy sinting dem weh him did write}, she get confused. Cause she know me never talk to har so yet. Me play it off quick and act like a seh me did really want send the message. She act cool about it, but me a wonder if she pick up wat really a happen. And wat me mus do?

You have to deal with this like how a woman would, either neatly try fi find out wa inna har head, den yuh respond, or jus simply say nothing and do nothing, unless she says something. Women only fight battles they need to fight. That's why when a drama comes up an a man jus' staat run off him mout, women will quickly slip into the helpless, poor-ting mode and quietly set about first determining what the man THINKS he knows. Then after she knows what he THINKS he knows, only then she responds, taking care to ONLY respond to what he brought up. Again, in this case she only fights the battles that need fighting.

But if the man never brings up anything, she won't say anything. And if she suspects that he suspects something, but is not saying anything, she would just be nice to him in a way that gradually removes his suspicions - with the real smart women taking care not to overdo the being nice part, which can have the reverse effect of strengthening the man's suspicions.

So play it like a woman: if she nuh say nuttin, yuh nuh say nuttin!

Bunning Psychology

My girlfriend and one of my friends used to get on good. After a while I noticed that they don't really vibe anymore. Nothing negative happened between them to cause them to stop getting along with each other, it just seemed to happen naturally. But every now and then she would tell me some little negative things about him that has made me avoid him.

But Raga their work places are close to each other in New Kingston and I saw them walking together to the entrance of Emancipation Park. She never told me anything about that. Then a friend of mine who is a waiter in a very nice Chinese restaurant saw them having lunch there. So now I don't really know what to think.

Maasa, yuh jus fall inna di trap a one a di oldest trick inna di book used by women. Understand dis: when it comes to bunning/cheating, women have long been way more skilled and smarter than men. What your girl has done is plant negativity in your head about your friend, to the point where you have chosen to avoid this friend - the same friend weh she eena tings wid!! What she has done is set you up to decrease contact between you and him, which in turn decreases the chance that you would observe something suspicious about him in relation to her. It also gives di bunna-man/friend justification fi waan inna tings wid har, because him a go start tink a you a move wrong wen yuh a avoid him - while not knowing say a she a set di ting.

The scenario is also great for the woman in that even if you find out something, it would be easier for her to say a lie di bunna man a tell, because she done create di division between you an him.

A she a run di ting!! If she nuh like him an naa deal wid him weh dem a do a Emancipation Park togeda? An weh dem a do a topanaris restaurant a nyam togeda? Hear mi man, because dem work place dem deh close to one anneda wen lunch time come dem a FUNCH!! Yeah a dat me say, FUNCH!!!! An a hope yuh can pick sense outa nonsense an know weh dat mean.