Dear Pastor,

I hope this letter reaches you in the best of health. I am 22 and have a problem. Whenever I have sex, I don't know when I climax.

Is something wrong with me? Please, give me your fatherly advice on what I should do.

T.H., St.Thomas

Dear T.H.,

Some women have never been taught how to reach orgasm. It came natural to them when it first happened without much effort, and they have continued to experience orgasm. Others have never experienced it and for different reasons.

sex therapist

Many women have been having sex for years and have never experienced orgasm, yet they have enjoyed sex.

Any woman who has not experienced orgasm should consult a sex therapist or a family counsellor who is trained in this area for help.

A therapist would insist that the husband of the woman attend the sessions because the husband has an important role to play in helping his wife to reach the sexual pleasure God has ordained for her.

There are exercises that a woman can do with her husband which the therapist will tell her about. These I cannot go into here. I think I have said enough on this matter.

Pastor