Dear Pastor,

I am badly in need of your advice. I am 24 years old and I have one child for a man who does not support him well. On occasion, he gives me some money for him but he does not do so regularly. I met a man on the Internet. He is 62 years old. He has been divorced twice. This man and I have been friends for seven months. He came to Jamaica to see me and from the time I saw him at the airport, I fell in love with him. He has a daughter who is my age. He told me that he would like to marry me. He sends money for me very often.

He wants to come back and marry me. I don't want us to rush anything. I have been hoping to find a good man.

My girlfriends tell me that I am lucky, I should not turn him down. His age is not a problem for me. He can do everything younger men can do. Both of us like to do oral sex. Seven months ago I was very broke and now I have enough to save and to pay my bills. I keep asking myself if this is real. He gave me his children's telephone numbers and told me that I can call them and ask them anything about him. I told him the truth about myself and my child's father.

Do you think it is wise for me to marry a foreigner? He was born in Mississippi.

F.O.

Dear F.O.,

Always remember that one can never be sure what the future holds, whether one would live long or do well in business or have a good relationship with one's spouse. Life if uncertain and that is the absolute truth. This man with whom you have established a relationship is a foreigner and he has grown up in a different culture; however, love does not have boundaries and if indeed he has fallen in love with you and is speaking the truth, you should try your very best to get to know him better.

Many people lie on the internet. They say things about themselves that are not true so one has to be very sceptical about what they see on the internet. That does not mean that what this man has said is not true. But I am only trying to caution you. You need to get to know this man very well and to get others to check him out before you agree to marry him.

Make sure that he is not deeply in debt or involved in drugs or have lots of women. He sends you money, thank him for it. Keep your feet on the ground and don't allow this relationship to get to your head.

Pastor