I've dated both sisters

Dear Pastor,

I am 20 years old and I have a girlfriend. She is 10 years older than I am. I used to have a relationship with her younger sister, but we never had sex. Her younger sister's father filed for her, so she went to live with him and his wife in America. When she was in Jamaica, I used to go to see her at her house. And after she left, her older sister called me and told me that I can still come and visit them.

After going for a few weeks, I realised that her older sister loved me. She asked me if I had ever had sex with her younger sister and I told her no. She said she liked me and all she wanted to know is whether we had sex. She has a car and, everywhere she went, she invited me to go with her. I felt weird at first. So I called my girlfriend in America and asked her how she would feel if her sister and I became friends. She said she would hate her sister, but she wouldn't hate me.

One month after, I called her back and she told me that she hates both of us, but she met a man and they went out on a date and she likes him, so I could have her sister.

It took me six months before I could have sex with her sister, although she tried to force me to have sex with her one night after we went out. It still bothers me because I still love her sister who is in America.

E.N.

Dear E.N.,

This woman asked you whether you had sex with her younger sister who was your girlfriend. Perhaps she felt that if you had sex with her, she wouldn't encourage you to have a relationship with her. When you told her that you had not gone to bed with her sister, she felt that the way was clear for the both of you. She also felt that she knew you were a good man and that her sister might not return to Jamaica to marry you and she wanted you in the family.

Whether you know it or not, she is not a good woman. She didn't have to encourage you to go that way. She is naughty, naughty, naughty. And although you say that you were reluctant to get involved with her, you didn't run away. You could have said no, but you eventually gave in and had sex with her. If you had truly loved her younger sister, when you spoke to her and heard her reaction, you would have assured her that you would not become intimate with her older sister. So now that you are having a sexual relationship with her older sister, she is quite correct in telling you to get lost.

Pastor