Dear Pastor,

Greetings to you in the mighty name of Jesus. I am a reader of your column and may God continue to bless and keep you. I am a Christian and I am having a problem with my marriage.

My husband and I have been together for 17 years and we are married for eight years now. He is in his 70s and I am in my late 40s. He is disrespectful to me. Anything that comes to his mouth, he tells me and people can hear whenever they are passing the house. He even thinks that I am cheating on him, but I am not. He makes me very uncomfortable. Anything he does for my daughter and me, he talks about it whenever he is upset.

He gets loud and disgusting. Pastor, the man who I once knew has changed into a monster. I went abroad and it was because of him why I came back. I didn't want to be ungrateful to him. He is planning to sell the house and give me my share. I am tired of him running me out of the house as if I am a squatter.

I am now having mixed feelings. Because of this, my daughter told me that she would never want to get married. I am confused and sometimes I cry a lot. I really don't want this relationship to affect my daughter in her relationship later in life.

Please pray for us. I await your fatherly advice.

Uncomfortable

Dear Uncomfortable,

Have you tried professional counselling? If you haven't, you should ask your husband whether he would be willing to go for counselling. If he is not willing to do so and you believe that divorce has become necessary, you should go and see a lawyer.

Pastor