Dear Pastor,

I met a man online from India. He is humble, sincere, ambitious, intelligent and understanding. He is working and he has a degree. He is not married, but he takes me for his girlfriend. He says that I have a pure heart, and I do like him.

Pastor, he wants me to come to India but I don't have a visa. He speaks Tamil and English. We both don't have visas. I want him to come and visit me in Jamaica also, but I don't know how to go about doing so.

My wish is to marry him in the future, but I don't know how to get him to Jamaica. Please advise me how to get him to visit me in Jamaica. What is the first thing I should do?

T.W., St Andrew

Dear T.W.,

I am going to say something to you. You may get upset and you might never forgive me for telling the truth. But I am going to tell you, nevertheless. It is in your own interest that you take my suggestions. I know that you believe what this man has told you. But my dear, you cannot verify what he has said about

himself. You met him online. You don't know anything about his background. A person can say anything online.

Think of it, what is special about you that this man is so eager to meet you and to marry you? You cannot even be sure that he is what he says he is, and that includes whether he is male or female. I do not wish to be disrespectful to you, but I repeat, you cannot trust everything people put online.

If this person wants to come to Jamaica, he can check that out in his own country and get all the information that he needs. The airline will give him all the information he needs. However, I will not encourage you to go to India to look for this man. No way, girl, would I do so. And even if this man were to come to Jamaica, I would be slow in suggesting that you marry him. I can tell you about many guys from India who have been to Jamaica to work and have married Jamaican women, and at the end of their contract, these men have returned to India and their wives in Jamaica have never heard from them. So, take your mind off this man and save yourself lots of hurt in the future.

Pastor