Dear Pastor,

I am writing for advice. I have a story to tell you. Sometimes people blame men for things they ought not to be blamed for. I am living with my babymother for two years and she is the laziest person I have ever met.

She has six CXC passes. I am willing to send her back to school but she is not interested.

She keeps the house dirty. When the sheets on the bed are to be changed, I have to tell her when to change them. She has clothes packed up on clothes and the washing machine is here.

In the mornings I have to get up and make my own breakfast while she remains in bed. When I come home in the evenings, sometimes there is no food and her excuse is the baby was giving plenty trouble.

Every evening she wants me to stop and by chicken and we have things in the refrigerator we can cook.

When I used to visit her, her mother was always cursing her. I used to blame her mother for cursing her but it is now that we are living together I have found out that I am living with the wrong woman.

place is filthy

I told her to go back home because I want a woman who can take care of me because I am a hard-working man, but she is not leaving.

I told her I am going to bring another woman in the house on her if she doesn't leave.

When she came to live with me she was 130 pounds, now she is about 200-plus pounds.

Every time I talk to her about going back to school, she says she is not ready. I cannot have friends visit my house because the place is filthy.

This is why men go out and find other women. Believe me, this is why they go to clubs to find other women and end up with bartenders and prostitutes. These girls keep themselves better than the women who are at home, and people give the men bad name.

I want to get this woman out of my home. Even if she starts do better I don't want her anymore.

F.R.

Dear F.R.,

This young woman has life too easy. I am sure when you encouraged her to come live with you, you did so because you wanted a stable family. As the mother of your child, you thought the child will grow up in a healthy family with mom and dad, but this has not proven to be so. This young woman has proven to be a very sloppy and untidy person. She behaves as if she doesn't have any pride and lacks ambition.

Good women take pride in keeping a clean house. They may not want to cook every day but they consider cooking for their men not a duty but an expression of love. Men do the same for their women.

Lots of men love to cook. Any woman who only wants to eat fast food needs to understand they will never save much and they will never be good wives. Men and women who cook together build strong relationships.

Indeed, this woman needs to be sent back to her mother. She is taking you for granted. She has not yet learnt the basics. She needs to understand how to take care of a home, man and children. However, I don't want to encourage you to run around. Too many diseases are out there, so be careful what you do.

Pastor