Dear Pastor,

I have read your column as often as possible. I am 29 years old with two children. Their father and I were together for seven wonderful years. He loves and cares for us with all he has.

Things turned upside down when I found out that he was involved with another woman. This happened in 2008 when my daughter was three months old. The lady is in the USA. He told me that he was doing this for his family because he couldn't afford the life he wants in Jamaica. I was in shock because he had a great job and I am also working, so we were not desperate.

Eventually he got married behind my back. I cried night and day. I am now over the crying stage and I am now trying to figure out where I went wrong. He takes care of the children and don't even ask me how I am doing. Pastor, I love this man with all my heart but he doesn't love me.

My problem is that I can't move on with my life because I feel like I should wait on him to come back to us.

Please tell me what to do.

J.

Dear J.,

Don't waste your time. This man is gone. He has been planning to leave you for a long time and he has done so. If you beg him to come back, he may do so but not to stay. He will come and have sex with you and leave again and you will feel used. So, wish him well. See that he supports his children, but don't allow him to try to fool you by telling you that he has great plans for the family. He is a liar.

Pastor