Dear Pastor,

I have been bothered by premature ejaculation, but I have never rejected my partner before marriage or my wife after marriage. Some men like to lead all the time, we can't take the leading role all the time. I thought that as a man I should be in control at all times but I realised that if sometimes we give the role to the female, things would be better.

For example, if she is a better money manager, why not allow her to manage the bank account? With me, I found out that after all the fondling, petting, and turning on my mate (female), there comes a time when I have to roll over and give her the steering wheel and let her drive (if you get my drift). I have allowed her to drive after turning her on and when she rides instead of me riding, we both end up in a place where I have never taken her when I ride. I put her on top and by doing so, I have passed my three minutes all the time. I realised that I can go to 10 minutes and it was a new day in my sex life and we are happier.

Men, stop being fools, egotistical, and allow the better driver to drive. We all will arrive alive and live long to talk about it. Sex will be more enjoyable and your partners will wake up smiling every morning.

Happy Man

Dear Happy Man,

I think what you are trying to say is that you have learnt to conquer premature ejaculation. You have come to realise that it is not just the physical disorder but psychological. And with a cooperative spouse, it can be overcome.

The analogy that you have used is rather interesting. Your wife, according to you is clearly the better driver and she feels safer at the wheels when she is in control. I wish both of you a long and happy life together.

Pastor