Dear Pastor,

I am 26 and have been married for three years but my husband and I do not have any children. My husband does his own business and he has lots of girls, but it was not like that when we got married.

I used to visit his mother, and his relatives are always asking me when will I get pregnant. I am tired of it now. I have given my husband everything the doctors told me to give him and nothing is happening. We have tried every sexual position in the book, and those have been suggested by my friends. I feel like I am a woman who has been well-schooled in sexual techniques.

The doctor we last saw said nothing is wrong with us, and we should just wait on time, but my friends are always asking questions. Time is running out on us. My younger sister is 22 and she is pregnant. I feel very jealous. Pastor, don't tell us to see any more doctors. We have decided not to spend any more money on doctors.

My husband promised he would stop having girlfriends when I get pregnant, or when one of his girlfriends gets pregnant. He is making a joke of his running around, but I know he wants to be a father.

S.

Dear S,

I can only join with the doctors in encouraging you to wait on time. I can tell you many stories about couples who thought they would never become parents after trying for many years, but eventually they did.

As I answer your letter, I am thinking of a couple that was married for 12 years before they became biological parents. They ended up having three children. I have a friend who was married for years and the doctor told him and his wife they would never have children. They eventually adopted a baby boy and called him junior ... then it happened. His wife became pregnant and they ended up having two biological children, in addition to the adopted baby boy.

From what you have written, it appears that this issue is bothering your husband as much as it is bothering you. His way of dealing with it is to laugh it off. He may be serious when he said he will stop running around when he becomes a father. You might find it hard to relax, but you should. Leave everything to God and time.

Pastor