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Dear Pastor,

I am married but my husband cannot be compared with my ex-husband when it comes to sex. My ex-husband used to tell me that he has a degree in how to make a woman feel satisfied with him in bed. I once told my friend about some of the things my ex-husband taught me to do and she said that she would like to have that type of experience.

She went behind my back and invited my ex-husband to her home and they had sex. And from that day, my ex-husband used to stop at her home before coming to his house after work. She stopped talking to me. And when I questioned the matter, it was too late. She had taken him over. I lost my man to my friend. Sometimes it is better not to have women as your best friends.

My husband wanted to have the two of us, but I gave him up. She is enjoying the good sex, but I will not lie, I miss that from him.

My current husband is trying but he is not as romantic, but I will not disrespect him by cheating on him. Pastor, I can use money, but I would prefer more sex than money.

O.H.

Dear O.H.,

Some people may say that you talk too much. It is not everything that goes on in the bedroom you should talk. You were boasting on how well your ex-husband could perform and your wicked girlfriend listened and decided that she wanted a piece of the action.

Some people would say that you brought problems on yourself. However, don't blame yourself. Women talk among themselves about good things and bad things. And if your girlfriend was a good woman, she would not have encouraged your husband to leave you and come to her.

On the other hand, your husband must take some of the blame. He should have been strong enough to resist your girlfriend and stay with you.

Concerning your present husband, make sure you are faithful to him. He may not be a lion in bed like your ex-husband but he is trying. Stay with him and respect him. And remember that he is not too old to learn. You can teach him new things.

Pastor