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In Love wid Bunna Man?

Raga, mi live with mi babyfather and the sex life boring. Now mi have a bunna man and mi a fall in love with him so much I don't know what to do. Raga, fi tell you the truth, mi no have no feelings fi mi babyfather. We deh from mi a 13 and now mi a 22. Him treat us good but him nuh know how fi talk to mi. Him diss me. Anyway, the bunna man is a perfect man him meck mi feel loved and wanted.

First, very often a bunna man or a bunna woman may seem 'perfect' based on what di bunning person a go through inna dem relationship. What I mean is dat because yuh babyfather naa talk to yuh good an naa mek yuh feel loved, dat might a mek yuh believe seh di attention weh di bunna man a gi yuh is so-called 'perfect'.

But if yuh fling two dry crackaz gi smaddy who a starve an a dead fi hungry, dem a goh tink di crackaz taste sweeter dan a nice plate a stew peas, oxtail an curry chicken inna one. As old time people always tell wi, see mi an come live wid mi a two different sinting.

As fi di sex ting, yuh might waan try fi work it out wid yuh baby fada. Yuh say yuh an him deh fram yuh a 13, an now yuh a 22 (a hope yuh NEVA did a have sex wid him at 13 though). Dat a nine years. All couples go through sex problems wen dem deh fi a long time. Sex problems afta nine years doesn't necessarily mean di relationship fi done. Unu can try fi do different tings fi nice up di ting. Try sex in different and unusual places; sort out inna new an different positions; try some new sex acts, if unu waan. But if him nuh willing fi bounce di sex ting wid some new styles den it naa guh mek nuh difference. Yuh alone cyaan dweet.

But be careful seh yuh naa mek di bunna man sort out mad yuh! Don't fall inna da trap deh weh nuff people inna, where dem get a shell dung sort out an staat believe seh dem in love. Finally, it could be that you have truly fallen out of love with your baby fada. But yuh need to be sure of this before yuh rush to any big an quick decisions. Tek yuh time an really mek sure first, before yuh run an goh lef him. Rememba, a you same one a write good tings above bout how yuh baby fada relate to you an unu pickney, you stated, 'him treat us good'. Yuh know how many woman woulda love fi can say dat bout dem baby fada now?? Be careful!

Christian Swipe

Raga I'm a Christian and my husband was asking me to allow him to swipe me and for me to do it to him. I was very clear that I would never allow him to do that to me and that I would never do that to him. Recently, we went to a weekend event where we stayed at a hotel. There was a party the Saturday night and he kept giving me these drinks. After we went up to our room he approached me for sex and we did it. The problem is that the drinks must have affected me negatively because I wasn't myself. I was like an animal. And during all that my husband did the swiping to me. Raga, it was very, very good. I almost lost my mind. I had no idea it would feel so good.

Raga now he wants us to do it again. And I've been telling him no. I feel ashamed that I let him do that. I feel ashamed that it felt so good. I do not want to do it again, and he is not understanding that.

I didnt swipe him back, but it also bothers me that if he had asked I probably would have done it, knowing how I was feeling crazy.

Puppa Jeeezas!! Yuh husband screechy pon yuh an bruk yuh out!!

Maaawwd!! An di swiping did shot!!

Well hear ya now, first, mi nuh feel yuh fi be too hard pon yuh self, cause it was your husband. And remember di Bible say what husband an wife do togeda cannot defile di bed.

But if is something weh yuh absolutely hate, an feel seh a di alcohol bruk dung yuh defences an mek yuh give in, den nuttin nuh wrong if yuh don't want to do it again, and yuh husban need fi undastan dat. If doing something will ultimately make you unhappy then your husband should not be selfish and try to force you to do what you do not want to do.

On a different level though, if it did sweet yuh so much wen him did a dweet, den probably yuh really like it an jus a fight it. Perhaps yuh can test yuh husban one more time widout alcohol an see if it still feel good da way deh.