I am 20 and am dating a 25-year-old man. Our relationship is not very old, but it is going great. A few weeks ago, he looked depressed. I asked him what was wrong and he told me that when he came from work, he saw his ex-girlfriend at his house. She told him she was pregnant and he was responsible for her pregnancy.

He said they had broken up four months ago. He is not certain whether the child she is carrying is his because she waited so long to tell him about it.

What would you advise me to do? Should I continue the relationship with him? I really love this guy, but I really don't know what to do. My fear is that a child may change everything between us.

Concerned Lover

Dear Concerned Lover,

Do you believe your boyfriend? If you believe him, it should not be difficult for you to make a decision whether you should stay with him or move on.

He started a relationship with you after the intimate relationship with the girl, who is now pregnant, ended.

If you believe that this is not a run-about man, you should ask him why he had unprotected sex with this woman, and soon after ended the relationship with her.

You are quite correct. A child can change everything. You will have to understand the girl and himself will always be in communication because of the child.

If you know you cannot deal with that, then you should not go any further with the relationship.

It is something you will have to ponder carefully before making a decision.

Pastor