I am keeping a secret from my kids. I am dating a man 20 years my senior, but my kids are not aware of it. I am 43 years old and he is 63. I don't depend on him for money or any other material things.

I know you are a straight talker. I need to hear what you think about this situation.

Thank you and God bless you.

Secret Lover

Dear Secret Lover,

Are you afraid that your children would object to this relationship? You have a right to date any man with whom you feel comfortable. If you do not wish to inform your children as yet, you shouldn't. The question is, do you love this man? If you love him, don't feel ashamed of him. Whether now or later, your children will find out.

Pastor