Dear Pastor,

I have a big problem. I have been in a relationship for over 10 years and I want to get out, but it seems like I am trapped.

My father passed away the first week in December after a year of suffering from cancer. I was taking care of him for the last five months of his life. I was there every step of the way. About a week or so after he died, I started feeling ill and miserable. I thought I was emotionally drained. I went to the doctor and found out that I was eight weeks pregnant and lost the baby.

Pastor, there was no pain and no bleeding. I was told that it was blighted, so I had to go to a doctor to get a D and C done. That I did. Only to hear from my man 10 days later that I aborted the pregnancy. Pastor, don't you think that it was utter disrespect for him to say that? He was the one who picked me up at the hospital.

Trapped

Dear Trapped,

I am glad that you were able to take care of your father. I hope you feel blessed.

Concerning the relationship with your boyfriend, it seems to me that he does not trust you. If he trusted you, he would not have accused you of terminating your pregnancy.

After having a relationship for 10 years, you might find it difficult to walk away. However, it does not seem as if this man is a responsible person, and you are wasting your time with him. It is better for you to end the relationship with him now before you grow older. If trust is not in a relationship, the relationship is dead.

Pastor