Dear Pastor,

I am 22 and my husband is 42. We are only married in our hearts. The only reason why I date an older man is because most of the young men are just playing around and this 42-year-old man is my first love. I hope to God I wouldn't have to want another man. He is very loving, caring, understanding, loyal and trustworthy. I love him world without end.

Most of the older men are better than the younger men.

Satisfied Girlfriend

Dear Satisfied Girlfriend,

Encourage your man to help you to go back to school. Do not use his money to be a bling-bling girl. If you truly love him, treat him right. You said both of you are only married in heart, encourage him to legally marry you. Marriage will give you a certain amount of security and stability.

Pastor