Greetings. I am 18 years old and I have two boyfriends. One is my steady boyfriend and the other one I met about six months ago. This new guy is really nice, and it started out as ordinary friendship but now we are very tight. My steady boyfriend heard about him and asked me and I had to lie. These two men are involved in sports.

I met the new one while I was at a game and my boyfriend was playing. He asked me for my number and I gave it to him. The same night he called me and my boyfriend was with me and my boyfriend asked me who was calling. I told him just a friend and I told the guy that I will call him back but I did not. At midnight, he called again and my boyfriend was still with me. Again he asked who was calling at that hour and I told him again that it was just a friend. My boyfriend asked me why he was calling at that hour and he is just a friend and I told him that I don't know.

I love my boyfriend but this guy is more handsome and more fun to be around. He has a lovely body. He told me that I am irresistible but he is irresistible too. One day my boyfriend went out of town to play a game and I spent the day with the new guy for the first time and we had sex three times for the day. I didn't want him to stop. He is much larger than my boyfriend and I like that.

My only problem with him is that he did not want to use the condom. But after I told him that without the condom we couldn't have sex, he agreed. But after he used it twice, he didn't use it again but he didn't discharge in me, he pulled out.

Pastor, I don't know what to do because he is a much nicer guy and he is very intelligent. He promised to introduce me to his family. He is also planning to go to Canada to study. When I told him that I was ready to go, he did not take me to the bus stop. He called a taxi. My boyfriend doesn't call taxi for me when I am with him. He walks me to the bus stop, so I am thinking that the other young man is concerned about my safety.

He is encouraging me to go back to school. But he is worried that I would leave him when he goes away to study. I don't know what to do because I like both men and this last guy is a better lover and shows more interest in my future. Please give me your advice.

K.N.

Dear K.N.,

Say what you want. You are easy to get. You are very cheap. I have not mentioned what type of sports these men are engaged in. You went to look at a game. Your regular boyfriend was on the team and you met another man who is also a sportsman. And in a few weeks, you were in bed with him all day. You are too cheap.

You are not behaving like someone who is intelligent. You were carried away by this man's physique and sweet talk. At 18, you should know better. You have to learn that men will always see you and try to be friend with you, but you would have to tell them whether or not you are already involved with another man. The relationship that you were having with your boyfriend was not just a casual relationship. Both of you were going steady. So when this new guy invited you to his house, you should have said no.

It is quite evident from the tone of your letter that you would be more likely to drop your boyfriend for this new guy. You believe he is a better man. Of course, the choice is yours. But remember, "New broom sweeps clean but old broom knows all the corners." I can't defend your old boyfriend, but I am saying to you that you have to learn to behave yourself like a lady. It is too early for you to know who would marry you. Right now you are confused. At your age, you do not know who would be your husband, so learn to keep your legs shut and concentrate on your future.

Pastor