Dear Pastor,

I am writing this letter to you for your prayers. I have been reading your column from time to time, but I have just got the courage to write to you. I am 42 years old and I am from Kingston.

I am in a relationship with a man for two years. He told me that he has feelings for me. He is also married. He calls a lot by phone. I am not a Christian. This man and I have had sex.

I told him that I am in another relationship. This other man is overseas. He promised to help me when he gets back to Jamaica because he wants me to do something with my life. I feel so awful about the whole situation.

This man said I should stop seeing the other man who is abroad. This is causing a problem. Once I called the man in Jamaica who claims to be a preacher and he gave me attitude. He told me to go away. I asked him what was the matter. He said he was going to change his phone number. This man has broken up my love life with my boyfriend abroad.

I should have known that he is not a good man because of the way he treats his wife. He said if I say anything to anyone about him, he will do me bad things. I reported him to the police. At the police station, he told the police that I am the only woman he has had an affair with.

I told his wife the whole situation and he denied that he took me to a hotel. I have fallen in love with him, and I am not afraid to die for what I believe in. I await your reply.

L., Kingston

Dear L.,

You knew that this man who lives in Jamaica was married, and that you were in a stable relationship with a man who lives abroad. Therefore, you shouldn't have become sexually and emotionally involved with this man. And this man has made a fool of you. He has used you.

And after you realised that he was married, you should have ended the relationship with him. He has embarrassed you, threatened you and helped to break up the relationship you had with the man abroad. I don't understand why you are still with him and you are determined to fight to keep the relationship. You should cut all ties with him and encourage him to stay with his wife.

Pastor