Dear Pastor,

I am an 18-year-old young man who has been involved with a 16-year-old girl for the four years. We have been having sex and each time we do, she has asks me to do oral sex, which I am totally not into. She had done it to me once. She actually cried for me to allow her to do it.

What should I do, pastor?

O.B.

Dear O.B.,

Are you really telling me that you have been having sex with this girl from the time she was 12 and you were 14? Did she learn about oral sex from books, movies or from other men? If you are not into oral sex, then why did you allow her to do it to you?

Are you young people doing well in school? Young man, are you aware you can get this girl pregnant? I know even if I discourage you from having sex you might not stop.

Nevertheless, it is my duty to do so and to warn you that when a girl becomes sexually active at a very young age, she may expose herself to cervical cancer.

Pastor