Dear Pastor,

I am writing to you on behalf of my sister. She met and fell in love with this smooth-talking, tour-driver gigolo. She was involved with him four years and he fathered her children. He swore he wasn't married or involved but the truth finally came out. When confronted, of course, he denied paternity or even being involved with my sister, period. He told his wife she was a bitter tourist that came on to him but he rejected her.

My sister mailed her proof to the contrary. His wife has a college degree and a prominent job with a major financial institution. She told stories of how this man constantly cheats on her. He disrespected her by having women pick him up from relatives' homes, only to return days later. He cancelled vacations to see other women. She even found threesome pictures of him, and so much more.

This man had a child with her friend. She is unaware and said he has low self-esteem. He doesn't suffer from low self-esteem, I think she does. He is attractive and athletic. He has since threatened my sister because the daughter he has with his wife found out.

Why would a college-educated woman stay with such scum?

Concerned Sister

Dear Concerned Sister,

This man claims your sister is a liar. However, she has proof they had a relationship for four years and have children together. That is the end of the story. He has tried to lie his way out of the situation but he cannot.

Your sister should take him to court for the maintenance of the children. She should be quite willing to have paternity tests done to prove he is indeed the father of the children.

You seem to be annoyed with his wife. You should not. She is evidently shocked at what she has heard about her husband. It may take a long time for her to get over her shock.

Pastor