Dear Pastor,

I am 25 old and I have a 20-year-old girlfriend. I love her and she knows it, but she is very possessive. She used to call me 24/7. When I didn't answer her, she sent me texts. One month ago, I told her we should cool it, so we did not communicate with each other for a month. When I called her and decided to take her out, she told me she has something to tell me.

She confessed that she had sex with another guy twice since the last time I talked to her. I asked her why and she told me that it was with her driving instructor, who took her out for night classes and then a drink. That happened twice and she ended up in his bed. I asked her if she didn't think of me and she didn't answer.

She blamed me for what happened because she did not know whether I was going to come back to her. She said it was a mistake and I should forgive her, but she still cares for the guy.

How can I trust this girl again? In one month, she had sex with another man twice. Pastor, please tell me what to do.

W.

Dear W.,

I cannot encourage you to renew the relationship with this young woman. She is too easy to get. If you were to forgive her and marry her, she is likely to cheat on you. In the space of one month she had sex with another man twice. She is not a good young woman. She is not hot, she is too easy.

On the other hand, perhaps she was willing to go to bed with the driving instructor because she wouldn't have to pay for driving lessons. Perhaps she had sex with the instructor as gratitude for what he has done for her.

I suggest that you permanently end this relationship. You will never be comfortable having her as your woman.

Pastor