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November 11, 2011
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He cheats, lies and beats me
Dear Pastor,

I have been reading your column for the past 10 years while living in Jamaica and also in Florida. I have been with this guy for three years and all he does is cheat, lie and beat me. I am so sick and tired of it. Every time he cheats, God sends a signal to me and I just let the Lord speak through me to him and there goes the truth.

I recently got pregnant by him and because he is trying to finish the world, he is telling me to have an abortion and then let us start over. I told him I was not going to take another life. Nevertheless, he took me to the abortion place three times. I got so angry at him that I burst out in tears and walked straight out. My mother told me not to have an abortion because God will provide.

wised up

Pastor, I want to tell you that I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl and now she is four months old. After I had the baby, he wised up and is trying to be a family man. This is his first child. He is 26 years old. His father has been in prison for 13 years. To be honest with you, my child's father seem to have his father's ways. If he says something bad to me, I am expected to keep my mouth shut or else he would hit me.

I am writing you with tears in my eyes because he did so much to me that my family looks down on me. He punched me in my nose and broke it. He punched me in my eye and discoloured it. I had to go to the hospital for both and lied.

One week ago, we got into an argument and as I put down the baby to get a drink, he hit me and used a glass and slammed it in my head. I thought I was going to die from the amount of thick blood and loss of blood. I had to be rushed to the hospital and I lied again.

Pastor, I know the doctors knew that I was lying. If I had called the police, he would be put behind bars for years. On November 6, 2011, he punched me in my face when I got home from the hospital because I went there to remove the six staples from the head injury he gave me on October 29, 2011. I couldn't stop crying. The doctor told me that my blood pressure is 120/168 and I could get a stroke or even die leaving my two kids.

I am 22. He hit me because I was going to shower and because I wasn't talking to him. When he hit me, my pressure was already up. I blocked out for a couple of seconds and became so weak. He left the house and didn't care if I was ok. My daughter was the one who gave me the energy to get up. Then he started texting me that he loves me and wanted us to go out to the jerk festival that is coming up in Florida. I didn't answer him.

The only reason why I put up with his crap is because I am not working and he is the one who pays the rent because he lives with me and the children. My mother's husband didn't want my baby there, so that is how I moved from my mother's house. Sometimes I just feel to hang myself and give up. Every day I ask God for a better life and it seems to be getting worst.

Sick and Tired, Florida

Dear Sick and Tired,

If you continue to live with this man or to have an intimate relationship with him, he is likely to kill you. He is a two-footed beast and he does not love you. But neither do you love yourself. If you had loved yourself, you would have left this man long ago.

I mean what I say. Something is wrong with you. And I beg you to seek help. Report this man to the police. It is not too late to do so. If you insist that you ought to stay with him, tell your mother to prepare for your funeral. This man is paying the rent, but your relatives would have to pay the undertaker.

Where there is a will, there is a way. If you love your life and your children, try to find organisations that assist battered women. There are such organisations over America, they will help you.

Pastor

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