I don't see how he can get me pregnant because he can hardly have an erection. When he gets an erection, it doesn't last and it is too soft to enter me. So to satisfy me, he has to have sex with me another way, but that way can't get me pregnant. He said that he is suffering from stress and when the other woman was living with him he didn't have that problem. I am trying to feed him well and he went to the doctor and the doctor gave him tablets, but they are not helping him. I would like to have a daughter. He says that we can adopt one, but I don't want to adopt a child.

Since I am living here with him, I have sex twice with two different men. I don't like doing that, but I need better sex than what this man can give to me. I am in a comfortable house and I don't have to pay bills but I also need a man who can make me feel as a woman.

Pastor, I am telling you the truth. These two guys who have sex with me, I didn't ask them for anything, but I did tell them thanks. And when I said that to one of them, he laughed and said, "Come again." But I don't want to go back.

Please tell me what to do.

M.O.

Dear M.O.,

You are not in a good relationship. This man has taken you to live with him. Have you tried to find out from him whether or not the property on which you are living with him is owned jointly by himself and the woman. You should check that out. Otherwise, you may find yourself without a place to live if anything should happen to this man.

This relationship will not last. You have discovered that this man has a serious problem and that he has gone to the doctor but has not received much help. And as a result, you have been cheating on him. As I see it, you will continue to cheat, unless this man receives help for his sexual dysfunction. You are not satisfied with a man providing food and shelter, you want a man who is very good in bed. And if he is not able to perform in bed, you will cheat. You also want to have a child and he is unable to get you pregnant. And you are not willing to adopt.

You should not use this man. If you are going to stay with him, you should not cheat. If you know that you have to cheat, you should end the relationship with him. So make up your mind and do what is right. This man will not be able to give you a 'proper fix' for a long time, if ever.

Pastor