My mother lives in Jamaica and I told her I was married. She asked me how I don't send any picture of my wife, but I cannot because I do not want her to know that my wife is almost the same age as herself.

I know I did the wrong thing by marrying her, but I did so to get my papers. She told me she is a cougar and I should not think I can marry her and leave after I get my papers. Every evening she comes home she wants me to bathe her. To prevent fuss, I do so.

I met a girl at the supermarket and we became friends. She likes me. She asked me if I have a girlfriend. I told her no. She is from Barbados but she is a citizen of the States. I am sorry I did not meet her before I got married to this lady. Sometimes I think I should tell her the truth but I am afraid my wife would stop the filing.

I am not happy but I am pretending all is well. She doesn't act her age. I have to shave her all the time.

A.P., U.S.A

Dear A.P.,

You have put yourself in a situation which is going to cause you much unhappiness. You did not have to marry this woman but you did so because you felt she could assist you in getting permanent status in America. You didn't get married because you loved her, and your wife has not proven to be sincere either. She has been married four times. When you met her, she said she has only married once and divorced. She did not speak the truth.

You have absolutely no future with this woman. This was not a good marriage from the start and it is only a matter of time before it blows up. You are just like a kid in the woman's house. This woman is not comfortable with you when she goes out. She doesn't want the people at church to know you are her husband because she is afraid they may tell you bad things about her.

Pastor