We cannot allow our bodies to take control of us. I am 23 years old and I am the kind of girl people often classify as 'hot girl'. I haven't had sex in two years. I am in a long-distance relationship and my boyfriend and I find positive things to discuss. Not that sex is entirely negative, it all depends on how we do it. We engage ourselves in various activities and we get involved in projects. If one stays busy, one won't have time to think much about sex.

Hot Girl

Dear Hot Girl,

I am sure you do not mean to imply that your mind is never on sex. What I believe you are trying to say is that sex is not always on your mind. Every normal person thinks about sex from time to time. It is true that when one keeps one's self busy in various activities, including sports, one is able to fight sexual urges easier than one who has much more time on one's hand. I thank you for your letter.

Pastor