I was married but I am divorced. I am now in love with another man and he is asking me questions that I do not want to answer. He wants to know everything about my past, including when I had sex for the first time. I told him that I do not see those questions to be necessary because I was married and divorced so he should take me as I am. The thing is that I began to have sex from I was 13 years old and I am not proud of it. And the first time I had sex was with a relative. I don't want to tell him these things.

He is always criticising girls who started to have sex when they were very young. And if they had children when they were in their teens, he would say that they were loose. I do not consider myself to be a loose woman.

Why should I tell this man everything about myself?

J.W., Clarendon

Dear J.W.,

Your boyfriend is absurd. He is going much too far. You are a grown woman. You were married and divorced. He shouldn't be asking you these ridiculous questions. I suggest that you tell him to get lost. End this relationship now. He is not a mature man, he is a boy. In fact, he is an idiot. Give yourself time. You will get a good man.

Pastor