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Dear Pastor,
I am a married woman for seven years and I am having several problems. I had children before I was married, but they are all grown children and living on their own. I was living abroad and I returned to Jamaica and got involved with this man. I made a big mistake. He does not do anything but go to work, come home, eat and sleep. I ask him to go to church with me but he does not go. I am 10 years older than he is. And one day when I told him unless he comes to church with me I will not cook any Sunday dinner. He cursed me and told me that it is old people like me who should go to church.
Pastor, I changed my clothes and put down my Bible and told him a piece of my mind. It was the Saturday night he had sex with me and told me that I am so sweet and he can never do without me. I called one of my daughters and told her what he said. And she told him that she would come to Jamaica and put him out of the house because her name is on the title. From he told me that I am old, my mind is changed from him. It looks like he was using me. This man doesn't have to spend any money in the house. I know he saves his money and I know my age. And since he does not want to go to church with me, it means that he is ashamed of me. And pastor, I look good. I don't even look my age.
I told him not to touch me and if he touched me I would kill him. When I agreed to marry him, I loved him and I did not want to live in this big house alone. I am so disappointed and this man can barely read and write. He has been telling me that he was only joking, but I don't run those types of jokes, especially when I consider that some of my girlfriends had warned me not to get married to such a young man.
Every day my children and I talk, but I wanted a man to keep my company and to help me take care of the property, not to abuse me verbally. After we got married, I saw a different side of him and I regret marrying him.
M.P.
Dear M.P.,
I hope that you will forgive this ignorant man. If he didn't want to attend church with you, you could not force him. But he is out of order to insult you and to describe you as old. He has become so comfortable living in your house that he has lost respect for you. And he feels that he has the right to be there. He should be washing, drying and applying lotion to your feet every day. He is taking liberty with you. Nevertheless, I hope that you will find it possible to forgive him and to give him another chance.
You are not wrong in informing your children about his behaviour. He ought to know that they won't stand by and let him believe that he can do and say whatever he wants to you. I am begging for him because he is an ignorant man. Give him another chance.
Pastor
