I am 25 and have a problem with my boyfriend who is 30. We have been together for two years. He has a child with a woman before he met me. He told me they were not seeing each other anymore. I love him very much. He treats me well. The problem is he doesn't want me to comeby his house.

The child's mother is not living far from him, but they are not living together. He said he doesn't want me to come to the house because she might come there and see me and she may try to fight me. I told him he should let her know he has a girlfriend. He said he wouldn't want to upset her and she would make a scene.

I am confused. I don't know what to believe.

N.G.

Dear N.G.,

I can tell you what not to believe. You ought not to believe his lies. He is still having an intimate relationship with this woman and he is fooling you. He likes the idea of having more than one woman. Perhaps his child's mother is living with him. Keep away from that man's house and end the relationship with him. He is lying to you.

Pastor