Dear Pastor,

I would like to commend you on the good work you are doing and may God continue to bless you richly.

Anyway, I am a 26-years-old female who is in a relationship with a 47-year-old man. He left his wife for me. To tell you the truth, I don't love him. The reason I am with him is because he supports me so I can look after myself and my young boyfriend.

Pastor, he pays my rent. Now I am confused because he wants to come and live with me.

I am asking you for your fatherly advice.

K. B., St James, Jamaica

Dear K.B.,

You are playing with fire. You are giving the 47-year-old man the impression that you love him. At the same time you have another boyfriend who is much younger. How can you take the older man's money and support the younger man? Don't you know by doing so you are living dangerously?

Is this young man encouraging you to take the man's money and bring it to him? Are you aware this young man will never trust you? If he is aware of what you are doing, don't you think he will believe, if both of you were to get married, you would find a man on the side who would give you money? Have you ever heard what goes around comes around?

You have succeeded in fooling this man but you also succeed in fooling yourself. This man is putting you to the test by saying he wants to come and live with you, what will be your reasons for not allowing him to come? Do you see why it is not wise to play tricks on a man?

End the relationship with this older man right away. It shouldn't be difficult. Tell him you are not in love with him. Tell him to try and reconcile with his wife. Do not take any more money from him.

Pastor