This woman caused me to do what I was always against doing. She likes oral sex. I did it to please her and told her I won't do it again. I was forced to do it again because she warned me that if I can't do that, the marriage is not going to go anywhere because that is what she likes.

My wife does not have any respect for me because when I objected to do oral sex with her, she showed me a DVD with her friend and her husband doing oral sex. She said her friend gave her the DVD to show me that they are doing it, therefore, nothing is wrong if we do it. This woman has me wondering why she went and told her friend about our bedroom business.

I don't know what to do with her. When I met her I thought she was the type of woman I was looking for, but now I am disappointed and she is a big woman. She is 43 and I am 48. She told me she didn't want anymore American men. When I first met her in Jamaica and I had sex with her, we didn't do any oral sex.

This woman squeezed my balls and pulled my penis because she was so angry with me. What can you tell me to tell this woman so that she won't behave as if she is crazy? I have to keep quiet because I am living in her house, but I am not prepared to live like this.

E.T.

Dear E.T.,

Times have really changed. There was a time when people didn't speak freely about oral sex. It was considered something freaky. Now, if a spouse objects to performing oral sex, it may cause the relationship to end.

Your wife is not willing to respect your position. She is demanding that type of sex from you. You don't feel comfortable doing it. I could only suggest that you both go to see a family counsellor. She will never be satisfied until she gets you to do what she loves.

Pastor