Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem with my boyfriend. He doesn't want to see me talking to other guys but he has many girlfriends. I do not know if he is having sex with them, but he is having sex with me. He is very handsome and he is sharp. When he met me it only took him two days to get me to have sex with him. I fell for him. He didn't even force me to have sex.

He broke my maiden and I don't regret having sex with him, but I am jealous and I want him for myself. I don't take money from him because I am living with my parents and they are supporting me. I have just turned 18 and my boyfriend is 20.

Do you think that he loves me? I always read your column and think that you are doing a good job.

S.A., Canada

Dear S.A.,

Don't worry. Many girls go for handsome guys. And evidently, you were carried away by his physical appearance. You felt that he had what it takes to capture the heart of a woman, so that is why after two days he was able to take you to bed without experiencing any resistance from you. You gave up your virginity before you were able to count, one, two, three.

This man does not carry a mask over his face. Other girls are seeing him and would love to capture him too. But it depends on him. There is nothing you can do that would keep him from going with other women if he wants to.

Put away jealousy, but be careful. You are young and you do not know what the future holds for you, so make sure you do not get carried away with this relationship. Concentrate on a career because, whether this man remains with you or goes, you would want to have a good job to support yourself. If you feel that you must have sex, make sure that this man uses a condom all the time.

Pastor