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Dear Pastor,
I am having a problem and I need your help. I am 23 and when I was 14 my parents forced me to get baptised. I didn't want to, because I did not believe that I would be able to keep up my baptism.
My sister who was 18 at the time, was baptised and was having sex and was also taking the pill, but my parents didn't know. I saw her with them and I asked her why she was taking the pill and she told me that she had her boyfriend. He was a soldier. She used to go out with him any chance she got and they had sex.
My sister used to fool my parents. Sometimes when she should have been in school, she didn't go. She went away with other guys. And when she attended church, she used to act as a Christian. I got baptised because I was obedient to my parents. But when I was 16, I met a guy and a few months after we had sex. He got me pregnant when I was 18. I was not as wise as my sister. My parents cursed me and told me that I did not have any ambition because my sister is older than I and she didn't have a man. I never let my sister down. So, to this day, my parents don't know that my sister was having sex and that she had a boyfriend.
I have a lovely son and I don't regret having him. His father is helping me take care of him. His father and I are not living together, but we love each other and one day we hope to get married. My sister has a good job, but she doesn't have any children. But sometimes she takes my son out and tells her friends that he is her child. I love my sister every much. She told me that she is not on the pill anymore. And although she is still having sex, she can't get pregnant. She doesn't go to church anymore.
What can my sister do to clean out her womb?
A.S., St Thomas
Dear A.S.,
Parents should not force their children to get baptised. They may encourage their children to serve the Lord and to attend church, but the children should make their own decision whether they wish to get baptised and when.
Your sister gave the impression to your parents that she was walking and living as a Christian, but she was only doing so at home. After she left the premises of her parents, her Christianity was left behind. When she went to church, she behaved as a Christian, but when she left church her conduct changed.
You got baptised, but you ended up pregnant. You had unprotected sex, your sister didn't. You ended up pregnant and your parents thought that you were the bad girl and your sister the saint. Now she wants to become pregnant, but nothing is happening. I could only suggest that she goes and discusses her situation with her gynaecologist. I hope that both of you would rededicate yourselves to the Lord and that each of you will get married to good men and go back to church.
Pastor
