Dear Pastor,

Some men do look first at the body of a woman while others, before they make a commitment; they take time to look at the inner soul. It is wonderful and encouraging when a man says to his woman, "You're so smart, I knew when I chose you there was more to you than just a beautiful face."

A wise man not only looks at the outward appearance, but looks into the heart of a woman. He will choose a woman who will communicate intelligently with him and amongst friends and peers. He would also choose a woman who helps him with the financial running of his business and the home. A man will choose a woman who is capable of going out in the workforce to help provide for the family in case of illness or hardship.

L.,

Dear L.,

The man you describe seems to be a perfect man. Regrettably, there is no such man. That does not mean that a woman should not have a list of criteria that she would like in a man.

Pastor