Dear Pastor,

Sex is for mature people and should be done within the context of the Bible, that is, marriage before sex. Sex should be done in a clean manner. I don't think reaching the age of consent is what should determine if one is mature and ready for sex. Some people who are between the ages of 18 to 20 are mature, while some 40 years and older are still not mature.

The older men and women who get involved with underage and immature boys and girls should be punished, because I think these young boys and girls honestly don't know what they are getting into and they live to regret what they did when they get older.

Pastor, sex should not be dirty, but in today's world some of what men and women do and call it sex is very dirty.

C.G.,

Dear C.G.,

Too bad that you have not explained what you consider to be maturity. According to you, even some people who have reached the age of 40 are not mature. Are you saying, therefore, you would consider such a person not ready to have sex? My goodness! That cannot be right. Who would determine who is mature and who is not?

Some young people are very much aware of what is going on around them, while others are not. Their parents and guardians have instructed many. Their sex education started from they were very young (before they reached age 10), while others have grown up sheltered and the word 'sex' was considered a dirty word. These are the young people who are likely to be enticed and abused by older men.

You also raised the matter of dirty sex. It would have been helpful if you had taken the time to explain what you mean by dirty sex. To some people, even sexual positions are considered dirty.

Any couple who does anything outside of the 'missionary style' is considered to be doing kinky stuff.

I appreciate your letter of concern and I hope you will write again. May God bless you.

Pastor