Dear Pastor,

One of the worst things in a relationship is having to deal with a selfish partner. I have had my share of women who take my sweetness for weakness and only wanted to take, take, take and give nothing.

My remedy for selfish people is to remove myself from around them because it would be impossible to be lovers with them and almost impossible to be friends with them.

D.C.

Dear D.C.,

Selfish people are difficult to deal with, especially if you are living under the same roof with them. They are only concerned about themselves. They do not know how to share.

If a girl is the only child for her parents, she has to be taught that sharing is important. And that lesson has to be taught by her parents from childhood. A man may find it difficult to deal with such a person because she does not have siblings and never learned to share by wearing their clothes or have them wear hers. Some people are not only selfish, they are also jealous. Some don't think of other people's feelings. It is a terrible thing to share room in college with a selfish person.

He or she likes to get but never gives. Selfish people may need therapy. They may not think that something is wrong with them, but they need to be taught that we are our brother's keepers and no man stands alone. It is very difficult for some people to deal with selfishness because they do not realise that they are selfish.

Selfish people may give but they do so expecting to get. Men do it to women, and women do it to men. One does not have to live a life of selfishness. One can learn to change one's mindset and think of others instead of concentrating on oneself, help those who are in need by giving to individuals and organisations, and expect nothing in return.

Pastor