I have a situation in which I need your advice. I have been reading your column for many years. I am having a problem with my sisters and my spouse. One of my sisters complained that my boyfriend touched her inappropriately, and that one day he asked her for a body massage. My sister does that kind of job.

When I heard about all of this, I started to cry. I suffer from high blood pressure so I told him to leave, but he didn't. I got my other family members involved to hear what they had to say. We took my sister in front of my boyfriend and she was just behaving badly. She was crying and saying that we didn't believe her. I told him that it is best that he leave, because she started to spread it, and he did. He said it was a lie, but he did admit to the massage. He said that when his hands caught her on her vagina, it was not intentional.

A week afterwards, I asked my little sister if he did something to her, and she said he only told her that he dreamt that they were having sex. I fainted at that point and I cried uncontrollably. She asked me why I was crying and he didn't have sex with any of them and said, "He didn't touch up our vagina or touch our breasts, so what is the excitement?" I was surprised when she said that.

She gives me a lot of trouble otherwise with men, but I just talk to her and pray for her. I took both sisters to live with me from they were very young. I basically grew them. My boyfriend had told me that he had problems in the house with my sisters because when he is there, they dress 'half naked' and he was having erections, but he wouldn't do anything stupid. I have my own room, but no privacy. My sisters just come in as they like, even though he is there.

I am so confused. I don't know what to do. Should I leave him, or should I just go to his place? My older sister has moved out because she has been very disrespectful to me, my brother and our father as well. She is not my mother's child. What should I do?

I prayed about it. I don't know what to tell my son why his father is not here anymore. She has disowned me as a sister. Otherwise from this, they always say that I love him too much and I should go out and enjoy myself more often. I can't live the life they live. I was grown in the Church.

Unknown

Dear Unknown,

Clearly, this man had a problem living at the house with you and your sisters. He expressed to you that he had a weakness. Whenever he saw your sisters in skimpy clothes, he experienced erections. That meant he found it difficult to control his sexual urges. Your sisters turned him on. Unknowing to them, they tempted him, and he felt that he should assure you that he would not yield to the temptation.

Whether he is guilty of getting involved with any of them at a later date is questionable. But you can learn that it is unwise to have young girls moving in and out of your room while your man is there.

I commend you for helping your sisters, but I beg you to exercise common sense.

Pastor