He also accuses me of cheating which I have never done. He tells me all the time that he sees me in his future and he wants me to have his first child. He would not mind if I had it now but for me, school comes first. Every woman that he has been with always calls me and tells me off. I would do nothing but just tell him and he would take care of them and they never call again. I kept my sixteenth birthday party last year May and he and I cut the cake at the party. I thought silently that I am the one he loves. That night was the best night, the settings and everything that took place were just like a wedding.

This guy is with a different woman from last year September. The woman knows about me and I know about her and none of us has decided to leave. That same woman was with my boyfriend's brother and then she is with my boyfriend. What has me confused is why the relationship between the woman and him is continuing for so long? I feel that he loves this woman and when I ask if he does, he says no. He says that he is just using her for sex and I am his wife.

Pastor, a girl can take so much and no more. Right now I am just ignoring this guy. But when I ignore him, I still feel hurt. His family does not even like the other woman. I am very close to his family. I am just wondering if it is really me he loves.

Pastor, should I continue to ignore this guy or should I just continue with him? He is my first love and I wish he could just be a man and let it be my last love.

Do you think we have a future together? Hope to hear from you as soon as possible.

Confused Girl

Dear Confused Girl,

You are very fortunate that this man hasn't got you pregnant as yet. He is a playboy and he knows that he can do anything he wants and tell you what you want to hear. You are young and you can't deal with these types of problems that he is bringing into the relationship. He doesn't mean you well. You should not give him the impression that he can do whatever he pleases and consider you as his girlfriend and future wife. He is not a good man so you should end the relationship with him. Good men respect their women and this man does not respect you.

Pastor