Dear Pastor,

I am a regular reader of your column. I am a 27-year-old female. I just need your help, and whatever advice you give me I will take it.

I am involved with a 39-year-old man. The relationship is five years old, but I am not in love with him anymore. I used to love him, but he started to accuse me of cheating with other men, and I wasn't doing that at the time. He is always saying that people are telling him things. I always cry and tell him to stop it, but he doesn't stop. So, I got to dislike him and I have started to give him 'bun' for about eight months now.

Pastor, I really don't love him anymore, but he is always there to support me financially. I am now having an affair with two other men. One of them is living next door to where I used to live. He is 29 years old, but he lives with his babymother. He is not supporting me, but I like him, and he wants to do anal sex with me and I am not into that.

The other man is living in Mandeville. He is a businessman and he says he is single and I am his real woman. I told him that I broke up with my original boyfriend, but that is a lie. It has been about three months now since I am with this man. He is not supporting me, but because the relationship is new, I am going to give him some more time. Pastor, I am really in love with this man. I can go to his place whenever I feel like.

S.M, St Catherine

Dear S.M.,

Intelligent men don't listen to rumours about their women. Foolish men believe everything they hear. And because people know that the men would believe, they tell them nonsense, and even lie on the women. It is not unusual for women to tell lies on other women too.

Sometimes a woman might tell a man something about his girlfriend because she is jealous of the girlfriend. Sometimes it is because she wants to cause a rift between the man and the woman, so that she would have an opportunity to become intimate with the man.

Your man, on the other hand, might not be hearing anything negative about you, but he might be jealous and foolish and doesn't like to see you talk to any other man at all, so he tells you that he heard something.

It is unfortunate that because of, his accusations, you have started to be unfaithful. As the saying goes you, "Refuse to bear the name without playing the game". Women do that all the time. They feel that the way to hit back at the men is to cheat.

I cannot support you in what you have been doing for the last eight months. You are giving your boyfriend more than enough proof. If he were to find out that you are having sexual relations with these two men, he might not only talk about it, but he may try to hurt you physically and even pick fights with the men.

You are playing with fire by becoming involved with these two men. You should not be having intimate relationships with any of them while you are still involved with the 39-year-old man. Right now, you are being promiscuous.

You claim that you are in love with the man in Mandeville, therefore you should end the relationship with the others.

Pastor