Dear Pastor,

I am 19 years old and I have been sexually active from I was 17. I have a boyfriend, and I have been admiring another man, but he does not know that I am his secret admirer. I love him a lot. My boyfriend and I went to a party and this guy asked me for a dance. When I danced with him, I was totally turned on. I was very wet. I had to go to the bathroom and dry myself. Just looking at him dancing with other girls caused me to have an orgasm. I can't let my boyfriend know how I feel about him but I have weak legs when I see him dance.

Do you think that I am abnormal? I am awaiting your reply.

A.B.,

Dear A.B.,

What you have been experiencing is not unusual. Some people truly get turned on when they dance with individuals they love and admire. Men have ejaculated while dancing with women. And women have experienced orgasm just like you. That's why some men do not like their women to dance with other men when they go out to parties and other functions.

That does not mean that all dancing should be condemned as some religious people have done. But everyone should be aware that there are some types of dancing that can be very sensual and seductive, which one should avoid. So you are not abnormal. You should just be careful.

Pastor