Dear Pastor,

Greetings to you and the rest of my global family. I am a Jamaican serving time in a Miami prison. I am also a loyal reader of your column for years. The other day I read in the your column about a Jamaican-American citizen who was having problems getting his woman to have sex with him and other women or walking around the house half naked in heels.

I am not a relationship expert and I am definitely not here to judge anyone on the way he/she chooses to live his/her life, but I am a strong believer in the saying, "What happens in a relationship or behind close doors should stay there as long as it is a mutual agreement."

There are a lot of women who are willing to try new things, such as bringing other women into their bedrooms in hope of spicing up their sex life. There are also others who do not have any problems walking around their houses half naked or fully naked in heels in an attempt to hold their partner's interest.

Whatever these women choose to do or not do is their choice. On the other hand, there are still those who do not believe in trying anything new or changing who they are and, no matter how much of a prude or outcast they may be, it is a choice they are willing to live with.

Pastor, when it is all said and done, we should never force others to conform to who we are or how we view things. Everyone have the right to choose the life they want to live.

R.W., Miami, Florida, USA

Dear R.W.,

The fact that certain things are done behind closed doors does not make them right. The man who wrote the letter to me felt that his woman was wrong in objecting and refusing to make love with other women while he watched them. She was unwilling also to participate in threesomes. The writer also wanted his woman to do other things that she considered abominable. And, in my opinion, she was quite right in ending the relationship with him.

So I repeat, not everything that is done behind closed doors is right and should be encouraged or tolerated by every spouse, and not every request should be granted.

Pastor