She doesn't understand that a man doesn't always want to see his wife covered up. When we have sex, as soon as we are finished she goes to the bathroom and washes up.

She is not romantic. If I send her flowers she will never say thanks, so I stopped sending her flowers. Although these days are hot, she is still covering up in bed. If I sing a love song for her, she doesn't appreciate it. All she wants to hear is just gospel songs.

I would like my wife to change, but I don't know what to do.

S.H.,

Dear S.H.,

Stop trying to convince your wife to do what you want her to do. It is not going to work, because she doesn't see any need to change. However, tell her that you are frustrated and you would like to spice up the relationship. Therefore, you want both of you to go and see a family counsellor.

A family counsellor should be able to show her that her attitude towards you is poor, and that most men like to try new things and like to see their women looking attractive, etc.

I would further suggest that both of you choose a female counsellor who is married, so that your wife will not feel that the counsellor is taking your side because he is a man.

Pastor