Dear Pastor,

Greetings in Jesus name. I am 30 and my husband is 35. We have been married for four years and we have one child together. My husband and I have had a good sex life, but to him he is not getting enough. He is a furniture maker and I am not working; and we have sex every night. And, sometimes, when he should be at work, he shows up at home for lunch. And before he goes back to work, we have to have sex.

My husband is never too tired for sex. Even when I am tired and can't handle him, he would lie on his back and masturbate and then fall asleep. To stop him from masturbating, I will have sex with him. Pastor, sometimes I even fall asleep while he is on top of me. The way I am feeling now, if I should hear that my husband have another woman I wouldn't leave him because I can't go up to him. But on the other hand, I am glad he is not that type of man.

Do you think something is wrong with my husband? And is there anything I can give him to slow him down?

Please for your advice.

E.T.,

Dear E.T.,

Some women would say that you are a very fortunate woman because you have a man who is healthy and strong and can sexually satisfy you. Some women have to beg their husbands to have sex with them because sex is infrequent. And the men are always complaining that the women say that they are very tired.

It is not unusual, however, for a man to want sex just about every night. And to some couples, this is rather routine. I believe that you find it difficult (although you are at home) because your child takes up a lot of your time and you become very tired. However, try your best to get some rest before your husband comes home, so that you will be able to satisfy his sexual appetite. And whenever you feel exhausted, you should coax your husband to bed and promise him sex early in the morning before he goes to work.

I am sure that you wouldn't want your husband to carry on an affair. You will surely lose him. The girl might give him sex any time, anywhere, any how - the full hundred. She will take him away from you. So reason with your husband, work with him and try to tell him that although you want to satisfy his needs, he should try to use restraint because every man must practise self-control.

Pastor