Dear Pastor,

I am 17 years old and I have a 16-year-old girlfriend. She is very bad. She told me she had sex 14 times and most of the men were big men. They could be her father.

One day, I was walking with her on the road and a man saw us and called her and she told me she "soon come". She went and talked to the man. He was on a bicycle. When she came back I asked her who was that man and she said both of them "used to deal".

She lives with her grandmother and the grandmother can't talk to her. I invited her to go to church and she doesn't want to come. She said she doesn't have any church clothes. I don't know why but I like this girl, and she promised me that she will change. But it is six months now we are friends and I don't see any change in her.

We never had sex, but we kissed. And the last time we kissed, she kept telling me "come on, come on". And I said come on where and she said I don't have any sense. I have never had sex. She said she is not afraid of men, because most of the men give her money.

Do you think this girl will lead me to hell?

T.H., St. Mary

Dear T.H.,

This girl is young but she has sexual experience. She started indulging in sex at a very tender age. She is too hot for you to handle. You may keep her as a social friend but don't go further. She is a bad influence on you. Perhaps you were excited in having a girlfriend, but now that you have found out that she doesn't have any character, you shouldn't consider her special in your life.

Pastor