Dear Pastor,

Keep up the good work you are doing. I like to tell you a little about myself and the man I have met. He is 62 and I am 35 years old. He treats me like a queen, but I don't know if I can treat him the same way.

Sometimes my head is giving me wrong signals about this man. He told me he wants to marry me and he also wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I have two children who are not his children and he loves them very much. He told me that he wants me to have one for him and I am willing to do so.

Please give me your advice.

S.C., Trelawny

Dear S.C.,

If you love this man, and you believe that he is genuine and not fooling you, and if he is in a position to adequately support you and your children, accept his proposal and marry him. Only then should you consider allowing him to get you pregnant. On the other hand, remember he is 62 years old. And if you were to have a child by him, he will be close 80 years old when the child is 16. He probably would be retired by then. Would he be financially able to support this child? Right now, does he have enough assets that would generate a monthly income to support a child through high school and even through college?

If this man is not financially capable, and you are not in a good job and would not be able to support a young child alone, then you should not allow him to get you pregnant even if you agree to marry him. You should never do anything that may cause a child or children to suffer or become a burden to family members.

Pastor