Dear Pastor,

It is time to say goodbye in a relationship when everything is gone. But before you welcome someone else in your life, it is important that you do your homework. Find out the qualities of the individual, and let that person know your likes and dislikes. If all is done to preserve the relationship and it doesn't work, it is time to move on, especially when respect, friendship, love, communication, and support are gone.

I was married for seven years and I was the one who called it quit. I couldn't allow someone who started running around to sleep beside me anymore. He used to take many trips to Jamaica and when he is home in New York, he did the same thing. He was a cheater and a drinker.

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God is great. He allowed me to catch up in time. I was the man and woman of the yard. I used to shovel snow and cut the grass by myself. And when I asked for assistance, he asked if I couldn't do it. Leaving the relationship was the best thing I could have done to myself. When we separated, he wasn't in a hurry to get divorced. I realised he had hidden agendas, so I found a divorce lawyer, submitted all the necessary information, set an appointment to sign the papers, then called him. I provided the lawyer's information and told him to call the lawyer and pay all the due fees.

Pastor, can you believe that he was furious about me wanting a divorce? After we had separated for three years, he had already moved on. I made him pay every bit of the divorce fees, although it didn't cost much. But it did rock his pocket a bit, because he had to pay up all at once.

Today, I am extremely happy with my soul mate. Life is too short for us to remain in an unhappy state. Keep up the good work.

L.

Dear L.,

I am glad you are happy. Not all marriages are made in heaven. Sometimes, second marriages are happier than the first. So, I wish you and your man every success.

Pastor