Dear Pastor,

I am a 30-year-old man and I am in love with a 35-year-old woman. I have two children by another woman, but we broke up because she believes in obeah. She doesn't like my mother because she believes that my mother is working obeah on her. She doesn't want the children to visit my mother, and whenever my mother sends anything for the children she throws it away.

She calls me all sorts of names. She took one of my underpants, put it in a plastic bag and buried it under a mango tree. Dogs dug it up and tore up the bag. I opened it, and saw my name written all over a piece of paper and some bad words describing my present girlfriend. My girlfriend has never interfered with her. Since I found the bag with my underpants, I have stopped eating from her and I have moved out. She withdrew all the money I had in the account and is threatening to take me to court.

She is very beautiful but her heart is ugly. I am afraid of her because she is threatening to obeah me.

H.A.,

Dear H.A.,

Make sure that you support your children. Do not neglect them in any way. Their mother has been disrespectful to your mother and does not appreciate what she has given to her grandchildren. You probably should consider taking her to court so that you can have visitors' rights. You should be able to spend time with your children without hindrance or having a fight with their mother.

How do you know that it was your children's mother who buried your underwear under the mango tree? And if she was guilty of doing so, what was the purpose? Was she trying to tie you? If that was the purpose, it hasn't worked so don't worry.

Pastor