Dear Pastor,

I am a regular reader of your column. I am a mother of two children for two brothers who are identical twins. One day, I went to visit my boyfriend and he wasn't at home, but I had the keys to his house so I went in. It became late and I decided that I wouldn't go home again. I called him and told him that I was at the house and he told me he would have been late. I fell asleep.

At about midnight his brother came in and saw me on the bed and forced me to have sex with him.

begged me not to tell

I started to cry and asked him why he did that to me. He said he loved me. I told him that I was his brother's girlfriend and he begged me not to say anything to his brother. He went into the other room and I went to have a shower and went back to bed. I couldn't sleep. When his brother came home, he asked me why I wasn't sleeping and I told him that I was worried about him. He tried to have sex with me and I told him that I was not in the mood and I was tired.

About two weeks later, I did not see my period, so I went back to my boyfriend's home and we had sex. I know he wasn't the one who got me pregnant, but he thinks that the two children I have are his.

conscience

The one who got me pregnant gives the child anything that he wants. I have never told him that he is the father, but he knows. But his brother does not know. To the children, one is daddy and the other is uncle. My conscience troubles me sometimes, but I don't know what to do. My boyfriend is a loving man and we are planning to get married. He has his own home and is in a good job. We want to have one more child.

Do you think he would leave me if he were to find out that I had sex with his brother? Do you think that I should tell him that he is not the father of both children?

S., St Andrew

Dear S.,

You made a big mistake by not telling your boyfriend that his twin brother raped you. I suppose you were scared that they would have had a fight and one would have killed the other, or his brother would have said that you pushed yourself on him. What happened is very unfortunate. But I believe that all rape should be reported to the police.

The questions you have asked me cannot be answered yes or no. If you were to tell your boyfriend now that his brother raped you and you believe that he is the father of your first child, he would probably look at you as a deceiver and might accuse you of having an intimate relationship with his brother over the years. On the other hand, if you believe that by telling him you will free your conscience, you may take the risk. But suppose the two children were fathered by your boyfriend? You are not sure that that is not the case. What you are sure about is that your boyfriend's brother raped you.

Therefore, I would suggest that you do DNA testing to ascertain whether the two brothers have fathered your two children.

In these days, when people are killing each other, you would not want to do or say anything that would cause these two brothers to get into a fight and one kill the other. But the choice is yours.

I wish it were possible for me to say do this or the other, but I can't, except to suggest that DNA testing might be the best step to take.

Pastor